Life Could Be Hard...The Case Of Jimmy
Is there a challenge in your life that is taking away your peace of mind and your joy? Do you feel like there is no way out of this challenge? Are you discouraged about solving it?
Listen my friend, what if solving it is not the place to start? Have you thought about that? What if you trying to solve whatever that thing is was the wrong way to go about it?
After spending almost decades to solve problems and trying to fix challenges, I finally learned not to; and how I proceeded is what I will be sharing with you in this message.
I will also offer you an opportunity to experience and apply what I will be sharing here with you. Fair enough? Okay, let's go!!!
If you could take a few moments to look back or to even look straight into your life right now, you will realize how true the statement "life could be hard" is.
The question is: What makes us say that life is difficult? It's the simple fact that things don't go the way we planned.
For example, you were hoping to get married at a certain age and it seems impossible. You believe you can create financial freedom for yourself and your family and that seems increasingly difficult.
Perhaps you have planned to have children but there are medical complications that arise. The list can be endless. But the difficulties are different for each of us.
Maybe you got married hoping for a peaceful, never-ending romance; but unfortunately the opposite is happening.
Your situation may be different from these examples. But, one thing is certain: There is a part of your life that is not going as you would have liked.
If that part of your life that isn't going the way you wanted is negatively affecting your happiness, I just want to tell you that something needs to be done to make it better.
And here is what you can do about it. I remember working with many people who have been trying so hard to fix their problems and work on their challenges. And there was a particular case that stayed with me to this day.
It was the case of one of my clients (let's call him Jimmy for privacy purpose). Jimmy suffered from fear of driving. His body shakes every time he thinks about it. He didn't feel good about his wife having to drive all the time. And Jimmy wanted to be able to teach his son how to drive one day.
This situation affected Jimmy's happiness a lot because he felt less than a man. He couldn't explain where this fear came from. Jimmy woke up every day miserable to think about this problem. But here's what Jimmy didn't do: He often thought about the problem, not the solution.
As a result, his brain reacted more to the picture of the problem and the bad moods he added to it. This made his case worse. He finally decided to talk to someone. This is how one of my friends referred him to me.
The first question I asked Jimmy was this: Do you think the problem comes from the outside or from the inside? He said he never asked himself that question. Jimmy couldn't think about this question because he was thinking more about his problem than finding a solution.
So I gave Jimmy a very simple prescription: You won't talk about this problem again for 90 days. We will only talk about the solution and the innovative voices to transcend the problem.
Jimmy accepted. Now we are on day 14 and he has noticed that his fear has started to decrease. Immediately, he thought I was performing magic on him LOL. And yet the solution was simple.
During the 14 days that he no longer talked about the problem, his brain has started to change. There's a secret here that I discovered and was teaching Jimmy. Life seems difficult because our brain suffers from negative thoughts and our body is under stress from toxic emotions.
To solve a problem, you have to become the solution to that problem. You have to become the person who can solve this problem. If we continue to be a negative person, how do we plan to fix the problem?
This is why I was asking you earlier, what if trying to solve the problem is not the place to start? What if you trying to solve whatever that thing is was the wrong way to go about it?
The question we must always ask ourselves here is: Who do I have to become to be able to solve the problem.
When we are too close to an image we fail to see the details. This is what happens to us with our problems. We are so close to them by talking about them and thinking about them that we fail to see the most important detail which is the fact that we are the person to change and not the situation that appears as a problem.
After 24 days, he had incredible ideas: He started taking mountain climbing lessons. He also took music lessons. His wife was so happy and proud of him that he lost the shame he felt that he was less than a man because he didn't drive.
Where were these ideas before. They were there in the creative force of his brain, but he prevented them from manifesting because he was thinking about his problem and only saw in himself an incapable person and less than a man.
If you change, you will become the person who can create the solution to your problems. Here are some proofs to confirm this truth: Every day, all over the world, men and women are changing their brains to become doctors, engineers, drivers, bankers, cooks and other professions.
Without transforming your brain it will be impossible for you to solve problems. After 40 days, Jimmy started driving short distances through visualization.
The difficulties of life will not cease. It's something we can't control. But there is one thing we can control and that is our way of thinking and being.
By spending 30 minutes a day to read and answer my emails and exchange ideas, you will find a great improvement in your way of thinking and in your personal development.
One of my students wrote to me to say that she didn't know how just talking to someone to exchange ideas and seek better perspectives could bring so much happiness and enlightenment to her life.
Why am I doing this? Because I like doing it. For me sharing my wisdom to help others drives me mad with love. It's like what music represents for Mozart and painting for Picasso.
For me knowledge and wisdom are like magic fountains. The more we draw the more they increase. It's crazy but it's true. So, I am looking forward to serving you, to chat with you, and to see beyond your problems and challenges with you.
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